What would I tell my former self at 21?
I find there is so much mis-information given to young women in supporting her growth and development. Most of it is based on other people’s perceptions, specifically their fears of a woman earning and building her success.
It’s really easy to tell a young woman to get a job, find something that creates safety and security. Yet as a 21 year old, with choices, and opportunity, most of these get shut down and cut off because of others people’s ideas, point of view and expectations.
I would tell my 21 year old to list the 5 things She is most passionate about, which at the time included, fitness, nutrition, working~ her work, establishing a base of money, now identified as flow, and creating a path for herself in the fitness industry.
Everyone, I mean everyone intervened in this. Their beliefs about my career choice, their beliefs about what money is and how to make it, their beliefs about marriage finding a partner. From my platform, my base of what I am passionate about, at 21, there was no outside support for this growth.
I would share with my 21 year old to look for and find the people pursuing their goals and dreams. Not caught up in titles, status or this idea that a man needs to be something to be a good husband or that a woman can’t have a career other than what was steady stable “income”. I would point her to her list of the 5 things she is most passionate about and explain to her, her values are an extension of these 5 things.
That when she shows up fully prepared for those 5 passions, her authenticity, her ambition, her desire for success will shine through and that those who couldn’t see it, don’t understand success.
I would make sure she understood her success needs a community of people around her that also have goals and passions. They don’t need to be the same, they just must be there, otherwise you’re with the complainers.
At 21 I would celebrate her risks, her ability to go after what she wants. That that is a gift and a blessing which will pay dividends for tenacity and trust.
I would also explain to her the purpose and value of love. To stay her course in honor of the man she loves. I would encourage her to tell him how she feels, that she does need him, for his support and she wants to encourage and support him the same way. I would say to her to find within her heart, no matter how broken to make him a priority. To show up for him, love him and accept his choices.
I would ask her to passionately commit to loving him now, and no matter how painful, let him know it.
I would let her know, no group, community or organization is worth it if they are not willing to invest in you, contribute to your growth or show up as leaders where they add value to your life, career and environment. That earning or receiving is a natural part of living a good life.
I would tell her how proud I am of her for setting her sights so high, for reaching and stretching when all the people around her had a limited and lack point of view about a woman, her career, success and money.
As a young woman, you always have a choice. Listening to those who came before you complain as they weren’t invested or willing to change or to those who are deciding to carve paths that bring solutions and success to self and for others to see.
Open your mind, and keep your heart open
Illuminating the riches within
Priestess of Passion